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Monday, January 16, 2012

Disgusted and frustrated with ignorant/stupid people who don't care about FACTS

Yesterday I had to take a break from facebook.  That's a first for me.  I am pretty addicted to facebook and have even become what some might consider obsessed.  Not with facebook specifically but with speaking out in support of DJ and the many others out there in our shoes.  I have spent countless hours reading and posting and although it's always frustrating, yesterday it got to be too much.  I literally had to walk away for several hours.

I updated my status to reflect my disgust with society's stupidity and ignorance and I left facebook for most of the afternoon/evening.  All morning I had been reading and posting but with each post I became more irritated at how some people even when faced with FACTS refuse to be EDUCATED on not only sex offender issues but also on their willingness to show compassion.

I was faced over and over with stories of vigilantes who seek "justice" (at least that's the term they use but it's really just hate crimes) in the name of protecting children.  SICK!!!!  They aren't protecting children.  They are spreading hate and fear and teaching our children to do the same.  OUR children deserve better.  ALL children deserve better.  I don't understand how they say they want to protect children but yet by seeking vengance they are hurting MY children.  What makes any child more important than another?  Don't my children deserve the same protection as every other child?  Not according to society.  My children are subject to harassment and ridicule because their father is a registered sex offender.  MY children have to fear for their safety and the safety of their family.  MY children have to wear the scarlet letter just as their father does.  Again, who gets to decide that MY children aren't worth protecting?

Over and over and over I was faced with ignorant comments about how sex offenders are scum of the earth and when anyone tries to point out FACTS and EDUCATE them, those comments are deleted.  All of these people in society who claim to be so educated are really just ignorant.  Some are even stupid.  I've always thought being ignorant meant you didn't know something while stupid is that you know and do nothing about it.  

I know I am not alone in this fight.  Far from it.  Those of us who are in this fight are standing together and we will eventually make our voices heard.  Eventually some of the "ignorant" people will learn the FACTS and listen and hopefully even show some compassion.  For those who are "stupid", I pitty you.  I hope you never find yourself in my shoes and needing my compassion.  I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

After my break from facebook I gathered my thoughts and realized I have to keep fighting.  I have to take a stand.  That old saying "you have to stand for something or you'll fall for anything" comes to mind.  I am standing up for what I believe in.  I believe in DJ.  I believe in 2nd chances.  I believe in compassion towards others.  I believe this is a fight worth fighting.  I won't back down. I appreciate those of you who are supporting me more than I could ever express.  THANK YOU!  DJ and I and our children thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  

As part of a joint effort with many of "our kind" aka sex offender supporters, (as we're often referred to) we have come up with a public group on facebook.  It's a great group of people who due to certain circumstances have found ourselves having to deal with this system and our goal is to EDUCATE.  I like to say EDUCATION + AWARENESS = PREVENTION.  Check it out.

http://www.facebook.com/SOSupporter


3 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing this link on our wall at R.I.F.T. Reaching Behind Bars:
    http://www.riftbeyondthebarriers.com/index.html

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  2. I love this post. I have those days, too... I think we all do. I know you already know, but I will say it anyway, you're not alone! :)

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  3. I do not judge you for supporting your man or judge him for the mistakes he has made in the past because I am not The Father God Almighty! Only he can look down on us and do the judging! He knows what is in our hearts. I'll be honest with you...I used to judge others and especially those in prison because I didn't know God the way I do now and I have grown even more compassionate after I found my Soul Mate who was charged with a very serious crime but you can't help who you fall in love with and once you get to know the person more personally on a deeper level you see a light in them that no one else can because they never gave him a chance. I've been with him for almost 2 years and I heard it all from how crazy I must be to want to be with a man who murdered a child. Did he really do it? Only God knows! All I know is he's doing the time for it! It might have been his hand that held that weapon but I truly believe it was not with his mind. The devil had something to do with it! Finding him has changed my perspective on things and has made me a better and stronger woman who has grown to be more compassionate and non judgemental. I now have a passion for prison , prisoners and their loved ones and plan on writing a book!

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